We Can’t Lie, but We Can Choose Not to Disclose Unnecessary Information
Honesty doesn’t mean revealing everything.
Learn the difference between truth, discretion, and strategic silence in communication.
Excerpt: We Can’t Lie
Being honest doesn’t mean spilling everything.
There’s a fine line between truth and unnecessary disclosure.
In this article, we explore how honesty can coexist with discretion, why revealing everything isn’t always wise, and how strategic silence can be more powerful than words.
Introduction: Honesty vs. Oversharing
Honesty is a virtue. Lying? That’s off the table.
But here’s the thing—honesty doesn’t mean you have to say everything.
Some people think truth means revealing every thought, detail, and piece of information.
But true wisdom lies in knowing what needs to be said and what should remain unsaid.
- You are not obligated to disclose everything to everyone.
- Some truths are unnecessary, even harmful, to share.
- Knowing when to speak and when to stay silent is a skill that can protect you.
Not lying ≠ saying everything.
The world doesn’t need to know everything about you.
And, frankly, most people don’t deserve to.
The Difference Between Lying and Withholding Unnecessary Information
Some might argue, “If you’re not telling the whole truth, aren’t you lying?”
No. There’s a difference between:
- Telling a falsehood (lying).
- Withholding information that isn’t needed or relevant.
1. Lying is Deception
Lying involves creating a false reality, misleading others, or fabricating information.
- Example: Saying “I wasn’t there” when you were.
- This is deception, and it breaks trust.
2. Withholding Unnecessary Information is Wisdom
Not every truth needs to be revealed, especially when:
- It serves no purpose.
- It could cause harm.
- It invites unnecessary problems.
- The person asking doesn’t deserve to know.
Example:
- If someone asks, “What did you do last night?” you can simply say, “I was occupied” instead of detailing your entire schedule.
- If a stranger asks about your financial status, you don’t have to answer.
This isn’t lying. It’s maintaining control over what information you choose to share.
When Disclosure is Unnecessary
There are situations where withholding information is not only acceptable but necessary.
1. When It’s No One Else’s Business
Not everyone needs to know everything about your life.
- Your personal struggles? Not for public consumption.
- Your financial situation? Not something to be casually discussed.
- Your private decisions? They are your concern, not anyone else’s.
Not disclosing information keeps control in your hands.
2. When It Can Be Used Against You
Not everyone asking for information has good intentions.
- A manipulator will use what you say to control or twist things against you.
- A competitor might take advantage of what you reveal.
- A gossiper will spread personal details unnecessarily.
By keeping things to yourself, you protect your position and power.
3. When It’s Not the Right Time
Truth is best delivered when it serves a purpose.
- If revealing something now would cause chaos, it’s better to wait.
- Timing matters. The right information at the wrong time can cause damage.
You’re not lying. You’re being strategic.
The Art of Saying Nothing Without Lying
If you don’t want to disclose information, you don’t have to be rude or suspicious.
You just need the right approach.
1. Keep It Vague but Honest
Instead of saying too much, say just enough.
✅ “I was busy.”
✅ “That’s a private matter.”
✅ “I’d rather not talk about that.”
No lies, no excess information.
2. Redirect the Conversation
Change the topic smoothly.
❌ Them: “How much money do you make?”
✅ You: “Enough to live comfortably. Anyway, have you heard about the latest news?”
Keeps control in your hands.
3. Answer a Question with a Question
Turn it back on them.
❌ Them: “Why didn’t you tell me about this?”
✅ You: “Why do you need to know?”
Puts them in a position where they have to justify themselves first.
4. Use Silence as Power
Sometimes, the best response is no response at all.
If someone asks something inappropriate or unnecessary, just smile and move on.
Silence speaks louder than words.
Why This Approach is Powerful
Many people operate under the assumption that they are entitled to information. They aren’t.
By choosing what to disclose and what to withhold, you:
✅ Control your narrative.
✅ Maintain your personal power.
✅ Avoid unnecessary problems.
✅ Ensure your words are meaningful.
Most people talk too much.
But the most powerful individuals say only what is needed—no more, no less.
Conclusion: Honesty with Boundaries is Not A Lie
We don’t lie. That’s not our way.
But that doesn’t mean we owe the world every detail of our lives.
- Speak when necessary.
- Withhold when wise.
- Know that truth doesn’t mean oversharing.
In the end, true strength is knowing when to stay silent.
